Want more peace: Shift mindset from have to to get to

Like most humans on earth today, but especially professional women in midlife who are also single moms it is a never ending chore list that begins the moment you wake up right until the moment you hit the hay.

You always have to:

get kids ready for school

get yourself ready for work

make breakfast

drop them off at school

rush to work

rush back from work

drive kids to various activities

make dinner

supervise homework

tuck the little devils in

clean up the kitchen

do laundry

fall in bed…zzz

every single day. And I absolutely hear you and see you. This life is exhausting, draining and there will moments when you will feel resentful. To the person who put you through this, the life you have now, let’s face it, sometimes the children themselves too… We are all humans, so don’t beat yourself up over this.

Instead, take a deep breath and give yourself a hug,

you are doing a great job.

With all the tools you have and the moment in life you find yourself in, you are being a great mother to your kids that you possibly can. And you are doing everything in your power from not falling apart.

While we can’t change the outside environment and how our lives shift and transform because of external circumstances, we can totally take control of our reactions to them. The following is a practice I invite you to do, whenever you think to yourself I don’t have time.

Shift your mindset from telling yourself:

I have to do it…

to

I get to do it…

I am allowed to do it…

So, instead of saying,

I have to cook dinner

say

I get to cook dinner

Instead of saying

I have to pick up kids from hockey

say

I am allowed to pick up my kids from hockey

What this does is allow for expansion to happen within us, and with expansion comes ease and peace.

Life is a privilege, our lives, no matter what is happening to us, is a privilege. By taking a small step in the direction of peace by simply switching our vocabulary, we begin to experience time in a different way, and thus our relationship to time and chores radically transforms.

As with all practice, you have to do this a few times to see the effect. Let me know in the comments how it goes.

Sending you love and light and all the encouragement to keep up your practice.

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